Wednesday, August 29, 2007

Lawyers should never ask grandmas a question if they aren't prepared for the answer

Grandma in Court

In a trial, a small-town prosecuting attorney called his first witness, an elderly grandmother to the stand.

He approached her and asked; " Mrs.. Jones, do you know me?"

She responded, "Why, yes, I do know you, Mr. Williams. I've known you since you were a young boy, and frankly,
you're a big disappointment to me.
You lie, cheat on your wife, manipulate people and talk about them behind their backs.
You think you're a big shot when you haven't the brains to realize you never will amount to anything more than a two-bit paper pusher.

Yes, I know you."

The lawyer was stunned! Not knowing what else to do, he pointed across the room and asked, " Mrs.. Jones, do you know the defense attorney?"

She again replied, "Why, yes, I do. I've known Mr. Bradley since he was a youngster.
He's lazy, bigoted, and has a drinking problem.
He can't build a normal relationship with anyone and his law practice is one of the worst in the state.
Not to mention he cheated on his wife with three different women.

One of them was your wife. Yes I know him."

The defense attorney almost died.

The judge asked both lawyers to approach the bench and in a quiet voice said:
"If either of you rascals asks her if she knows me, I'll send you to the electric chair ."

Exploring An Alternate Universe

All people have their own way of being in the world. It is easiest to comprehend this basic yet profound fact when we consider that every human being on the planet occupies a distinct role in the universe. We grow up in different environments, affected by a unique range of influences. The preferences, values, and beliefs we embrace are frequently related intimately to our origins. And the need to individualize our experiences is instinctive, as doing so enables us to cope when we must face challenges on our own. Consequently, each of us has developed a perspective that is uniquely ours. Interacting peacefully and constructively with people from all walks of life is a matter of first understanding where they are coming from. Then we can adjust our expectations so that we avoid making undue assumptions about what they are about.


In the face of emerging interpersonal conflict, it is easy to assume that others are being difficult, unreasonable, or stubborn. We are apt to grow frustrated when someone in our environment does not share our opinions or feel compelled to support us in our endeavors. It is likely that the individual or individuals before us may simply possess differing notions with regard to what is and what is not important in this life. We can ease the tension that exists between us by reaffirming our belief in the fundamental right of all beings to determine their own destinies. To foster a harmonious relationship, we need to do our best to relate to the unique universes they inhabit. And as we discover what makes them tick, our ability to find a mode of interaction that is pleasing to both of us is enhanced.

When there are barriers keeping you from connecting with someone else, think of questions you can ask them to gain a more thorough understanding of their point of view. You may discover that in addition to the differences in perspective dividing you, they are subject to insecurities and other personal issues that influence their way of seeing the world. It is likely that you will never fully grasp the myriad complexities embodied by humanity, but you can go a long way toward encouraging mutually satisfying relations by reaching out to others in the spirit of sympathetic comprehension.

Acupuncture and Massage for Chronic Pain

According to the American Pain Association, an estimated 86 million Americans suffer from chronic pain. Chronic pain can be characterized by persistent pain signals that are repeatedly fired from the nervous system, and they can last from weeks to years. As with most prevalent and life-affecting afflictions, there is a wide variety of solutions available; from over-the-counter medication to prescription drugs, chronic pain is dealt with daily in a variety of ways. However, traditional Chinese medicine may have two more effective means of relief to offer.

Both Chinese acupuncture and massage therapy are regularly used to alleviate chronic pain. There is some contention in the field of Oriental medicine as to which practice is more beneficial. According to the British Medical Journal, a recent study showed acupuncture to provide greater short-term pain relief and better range of motion than traditional massage. The conclusion of the British Medical Journal declared acupuncture to be a safe form of treatment for people with chronic neck pain and one that offers clear clinical advantages over conventional massage in the reduction of pain and improvement of mobility.

While acupuncture is believed by many to provide long-term relief for chronic pain, massage therapy also has a good deal of staunch believers. The Archives of Internal Medicine conducted a randomized trial comparing traditional Chinese medical acupuncture, therapeutic massage, and self-care education for chronic low back pain. The results this study stated that therapeutic massage was effective for persistent low back pain and provided long-lasting benefits, and that traditional Chinese acupuncture was "relatively ineffective." The Touch Research Institute has conducted over 90 clinical studies on the beneficial effects of massage therapy. These studies have proven massage therapy's effectiveness in the relief of not only chronic pain, but also juvenile rheumatoid arthritis, labor pain, fibromyalgia, and back pain.

Thankfully, the millions of sufferers of chronic pain do not have to choose between acupuncture or massage therapy for their relief. Both practices have obvious benefits and continuous business with returning clients, which is perhaps the most convincing proof of their success. While common, chronic pain should not be one of the most accepted ailments in the world, particularly when there are so many treatment options. By utilizing the resources available in traditional Chinese medicine, whether acupuncture or massage therapy, people can greatly improve their daily lives and well-being.

Wednesday, August 22, 2007

Brain WiFi

Our brains have a built in WiFi (wireless fidelity system) to read and
imitate others' emotions in a matter of milliseconds. There is great
adaptive value to quickly recognizing danger and reacting to it before
the conscious mind even has time to figure things out. Our WiFi system
also facilities rapport, shared emotions, and emotional bonding.

When you see someone scratch, yawn, or smile, your premotor muscles
activate to do the same. What determines the movement it executed is
beyond the scope of this article. What is clear from
Daniel Goleman's
research on Social Intelligence is that you are programmed to imitate other
people. Two implications come to my mind for our goal of thinking,
feeling, looking, and being happier.

1) You become like the people you are around. If you are around dour,
sour people, it drags your mood downwards. If you associate with upbeat
people who smile a lot, you will smile more as well. I'm not suggesting
you get a divorce because your spouse doesn't smile enough. But it is
worth considering whether the friends you choose, the activities you go
to, and your workplace pulls you up or down. At the least, adopt a
belief that you gravitate to upbeat people. You may want to consider
whether you want to make some changes in how you spend your time or even
whether your job could be structured differently or is ultimately a job
you want to stay with.

It is interesting to theorize what can go wrong with emotional WiFi.
Stereotypical lab scientists who do great research but are inept with
people have a WiFi system that pays little attention to input. Anti-social
personalities may or may not read others well but ignore empathy.
Dependent personalities too readily absorb and react to everyone else's
feelings.

2) When one person is smiling and another frowning, which emotion is
most contagious? One influence is power; i.e., people are more likely to
mirror the boss's emotions than the boss is to mirror theirs. Power
aside, it usually is the person with the strongest personality. By
strongest personality I mean the person who has the clearest self-concept
about who he or she is, especially emotionally, and stays with that default
program most of the time. Thus, a person who has a self-concept of
being an upbeat, very resilient person who rarely gets pulled down is
likely to be emotionally dominant with others. He is also likely to have
what I would call an emotional immunity to others' negative emotions.

Make a statement about your emotional self-concept. Does it give you
the benefits I just described?

Recognizing Our Own Greatness


A person who is said to possess greatness stands apart from others in some way, usually by the size or originality of their vision and their ability to manifest that vision. And yet those who recognize that greatness, whether they display it themselves or not, also have greatness within them; otherwise, they could not see it in another. In many ways, the achievements of one person always belong to many people for we accomplish nothing alone in this world. People who display greatness rely upon others who are able to see as they do, to listen, encourage, and support. Without those people who recognize greatness and move in to support it, even the greatest ideas, works of art, and political movements would remain unborn.

We are all moved by greatness when we see it, and although the experience is to some degree subjective, we know the feeling of it. When we encounter it, it is as if something in us stirs, awakens, and comes forth to meet what was inside us all along. When we respond to someone else's greatness, we feed our own. We may feel called to dedicate ourselves to their vision, or we may be inspired to follow a path we forge ourselves. Either way, we cannot lose when we recognize that the greatness we see in others belongs also to us. Our recognition of this is a call to action that, if heeded, will inspire others to see in us the greatness they also possess. This creates a chain reaction of greatness unfolding itself endlessly into the future.


Ultimately, greatness is simply the best of what humanity has to offer. Greatness does what has not been done before and inspires the same courage that it requires. When we see it in others, we know it, and when we trust its presence in ourselves, we embody it.


Some laughs :)


Getting married is very much like going to a restaurant with friends.
You order what you want, then when you see what the other person has, you wish you had ordered that.

__________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _


Man: Is there any way for long life?
Dr: Get married.
Man: Will it help?
Dr: No, but the thought of long life will never come.

__________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________

Why do couples hold hands during their wedding?
It's a formality just like two boxers shaking hands before the fight
begins!

_________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ ___

Wife: Darling today is our anniversary, what should we do?
Husband: Let us stand in silence for 2 minutes.

__________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _

It's funny when people discuss Love Marriage vs Arranged.
It's like asking someone, if suicide is better or being murdered.

__________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________

It is difficult to understand GOD. He makes such beautiful things as
women and then he turns them into Wives !

__________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _

A man, who surrenders when he's wrong, is Honest. A man who
surrenders when not Sure, is Wise. A man who surrenders even if he's Right, is a Husband.

__________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________

Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about
something you say. After marriage, he'll fall asleep before you finish.

__________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _

There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic
banking. It's called marriage

__________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _


Why do Bride & Groom exchange varmaala during wedding ?
To tell each other affectionately. .. Sweetheart U R Dead!

__________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _

Different Phases of a man:
After engagement: Superman
After Marriage: Gentleman
After 10 years: Watchman
After 20 years: Doberman

__________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _

There is only one perfect child in the world and every mother has it.
There is only one perfect wife in the world and every neighbor has it

_______ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ ___
Prospective husband: Do you have a book called 'Man, The Master of
Women'?
Salesgirl: The fiction department is on the other side, sir.
__________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _

Man receives telegram: Wife dead-should be buried or cremated?
Man: Don't take any chances. Burn the body and bury the ash.

 



Life's Tug of War

 

Life can seem ungrateful
and not always kind...

Life can pull at your heartstrings
and play with your mind...

Life can be blissful
and happy and free...

Life can put beauty
in the things that you see ..

Life can place challenges
right at your feet...

Life can make good
of the hardships we meet...

Life can overwhelm you
and make your head spin...

Life can reward those
determined to win...

Life can be hurtful
and not always fair...

Life can surround you
with people who care ...

Life clearly does offer
its ups and its downs...

Life's days can bring you
both smiles and frowns...

Life teaches us to take
the good with the bad...

Life is a mixture
of happy and sad...

SO... 
Take the life that you have
and give it your best...

Think positive be happy
let God do the rest...

Take the challenges that life
has laid at your feet...

Take pride and be thankful
for each one you meet...

To yourself give forgiveness
if you stumble and fall...

Take each day that is dealt you
and give it your all...

Take the love that you're given
and return it with care...

Have faith that when needed
it will always be there...

Take time to find the beauty
in the things that you see...

Take life's simple pleasures
let them set your heart free...

The idea here is simply
to even the score...

As you are met and faced with
Life's Tug of War.

Wednesday, August 15, 2007

Avoid Doing These Things After Work or You Could Lose Your Job

We frequently hear about celebrities behaving badly or even
getting arrested. The media talks about how damaging these actions may
be to celebrities' careers yet time after time we see them becoming
even more popular. The public may be very forgiving but will your boss
be if you behave badly after work? Will your actions damage your
career? It depends on what you did, who saw you doing it and how it
affects your employer. Avoid these behaviors and you may save your
professional reputation.

Post Risque Content on the Web
You may think that picture of you, drunk and incoherent, on
MySpace or Facebook, is funny, but if your boss or prospective boss
comes across it, it could be very embarrassing. Think of the image you
are trying to convey. Is this it?

Get Arrested
If you get arrested, particularly if it makes the news, you can
count on people including your boss, clients and co-workers looking at
you a little differently. Your boss may not fire you unless you're
convicted, but he or she may refrain from giving you desirable
assignments until your name is cleared.

Disclose Your Employer's Secrets
Revealing proprietary information is a breach of ethics and
could harm your employer where it hurts most - on the bottom line.
This won't bode well for you as far as your current job is concerned
and it can tarnish your reputation with future employers as well. Even
competing companies that may have benefited from your indiscretion may
be reluctant to hire you.

Badmouth Your Boss, Co-workers or Clients
No one likes to have nasty things said about them. If you say
something mean about an acquaintance he or she may stop talking to
you. Your boss may fire you, your co-workers may make going to work
unpleasant and your clients may decide to go elsewhere.

Post Harmful Information About Your Employer on Your Blog
Do you have a blog? If you do, be careful what you say about
your job (as well as your personal life - see the first item on this
list). Things to avoid include some of the other items on this list,
like badmouthing your boss or colleagues or revealing company secrets.
If your reason for blogging is to vent about your job, use a pseudonym
and be careful not to give enough detail that readers can discover
your true identity.

Moonlight for a Competitor
If you moonlight for a competing company you could be violating
your employment contract if it includes a non-compete agreement. Check
your contract and your employment handbook. Even if there isn't
anything that forbids you from working for a competitor, you should
clear it with your boss first. He or she could see it as a conflict of
interest.

Get Drunk in Front of Your Boss or Colleagues
Whether you're out to dinner with your colleagues or at an
office party, which by the way is technically a work-related event,
don't get drunk or misbehave in any other way. Maintaining a
professional demeanor is imperative whenever you are around those with
whom you work.

Make Racist, Sexist or Other Statements that Reflect Your
Prejudices
While freedom of speech allows you to say whatever you want, the
question is, should you? Remarks that reflect intolerance toward
groups of people are hurtful and can reflect negatively on your
employer if you are seen as a company representative.

Stalk or Harass a Colleague
Your boss is likely to disapprove if your colleague reports that
you are doing something, even outside of work, that is making him or
her uncomfortable. Should your boss conclude that your colleague may
be so uncomfortable that it impedes his or her performance at work,
you may be out of a job.

Get Caught Out and About on a Sick Day
You want to spend the day on the beach or at the mall shopping.
Do you call in sick or take a personal or vacation day? If you picked
"call in sick," think about what will happen if your boss or someone
who might tell your boss, sees you enjoying your day off.

Product Advisory: Nokia BL-5C battery (F Y I)

Product Advisory: Nokia BL-5C battery
Please select the language: English

Dear Nokia Customer,

This is a product advisory for the Nokia-branded BL-5C battery
manufactured by Matsushita Battery Industrial Co. Ltd. of Japan
between December 2005 and November 2006. This product advisory does
not apply to any other Nokia battery.

Nokia has identified that in very rare cases the affected batteries
could potentially experience over heating initiated by a short circuit
while charging, causing the battery to dislodge. Nokia is working
closely with relevant local authorities to investigate this situation.

Nokia has several suppliers for BL-5C batteries that have collectively
produced more than 300 million BL-5C batteries. This advisory applies
only to the 46 million batteries manufactured by Matsushita between
December 2005 and November 2006. There have been approximately 100
incidents of over heating reported globally. No serious injuries or
property damage have been reported.

Consumers with a BL-5C battery subject to this advisory should note
that all of the approximately 100 incidents have occurred while
charging the battery. According to Nokia's knowledge this issue does
not affect any other use of the mobile device. Concerned consumers may
want to monitor a mobile device while charging that contains a BL-5C
battery subject to this product advisory.

While the occurrence in the BL-5C batteries produced by Matsushita in
the time-period specified is very rare, for consumers wishing to do
so, Nokia and Matsushita offer to replace any BL-5C battery subject to
this product advisory.

The BL-5C batteries which are subject to the product advisory were
used with the following Nokia models or separately as accessories:
Nokia 1100, Nokia 1100c, Nokia 1101, Nokia 1108, Nokia 1110, Nokia
1112, Nokia 1255, Nokia 1315, Nokia 1600, Nokia 2112, Nokia 2118,
Nokia 2255, Nokia 2272, Nokia 2275, Nokia 2300, Nokia 2300c, Nokia
2310, Nokia 2355, Nokia 2600, Nokia 2610, Nokia 2610b, Nokia 2626,
Nokia 3100, Nokia 3105, Nokia 3120, Nokia 3125, Nokia 6030, Nokia
6085, Nokia 6086, Nokia 6108, Nokia 6175i, Nokia 6178i, Nokia 6230,
Nokia 6230i, Nokia 6270, Nokia 6600, Nokia 6620, Nokia 6630, Nokia
6631, Nokia 6670, Nokia 6680, Nokia 6681, Nokia 6682, Nokia 6820,
Nokia 6822, Nokia 7610, Nokia N70, Nokia N71, Nokia N72, Nokia N91,
Nokia E50, Nokia E60

"Nokia" and "BL-5C" are printed on the front of the battery. On the
back of the battery, the Nokia mark appears at the top, and the
battery identification number (consisting of 26 characters) is found
at the bottom.

If you are interested to know if your battery is part of this product
advisory, please follow the two steps below:

1) Switch off your mobile device and check the battery model. If
your battery is not a BL-5C model, you are not included in this
product advisory and your product will not be replaced.

2) If your battery is a BL-5C model, remove the battery and check the
26-character identification number from the back of the battery. Enter
the identification number in the field below and you will be advised
if your battery may be replaced.

16 Practical Tips for Solving Your Problems More Easily

I really don't think there is one way to do it. And the ways you
can use to solve a problem depends on the problem.

But I have found a few tips that have helped me solve problems
more easily. I seldom use all of the tips for solving one problem and
they aren't arranged in any special order.

However, I find doing some of these things early on can really
help you solve the problem faster and with less struggle and pain.

1. Accept the problem.

This is the one I try to do first when I run into a problem and
I use it almost every time. When you accept that the problem already
exists and stop resisting then you also stop putting more energy into
the problem and "feeding it". Now it just exists (well, more or less,
you might still feel a bit down about it). And you can use the energy
you previously fed the problem with - the energy that probably made
the problem look bigger than it was - to find creative solutions to
the challenge.

2. Ask yourself: what's the worst that can
happen?

This is another one to do early on. You can easily to use your
mind to blow problems all out of proportion. By asking this question
you can restore the problem to it's original size. And realize that
the worst case scenario - if you actually define it - is perhaps not
so pleasant but something you can handle and solve.

3. Gather some good knowledge.

Information about your problem can often decrease that uncertain
anxiety and fear we face when we are challenged with something.
Knowledge wisps away the clouds of fear around a problem. And we often
find that the problem might not be as bad as we thought.

4. Try to figure out possible problem along the
way.

This is something you can do before the problem even arises. Be
prepared. When you research - as described in point # 3 - also try to
find out what others in the same situation ran into, what kind of
challenges they faced. Ask people what they did. If you don't have
anyone to ask then books, forums and blogs are good resources for
gathering the personal experience of people. Also, be on the lookout
for local groups and organizations. Google it and see what you find.
If you keep your eyes and ears open you are sure to find something
helpful.

5. Ask for help.

You can ask people for advice on what to do and what they did in
similar situations like yours. But you can also ask for more practical
help. You don´t have to solve every problem on your own and sometimes
it feels better to have someone by your side, even if it is just for
emotional support.

6. Let go of the need to be right.

Open your mind to a solution that may work and try it out
instead of just making snap judgements based on little information and
experience. The need to be right can make you disregard solutions that
are just what you need for far too long.

7. Come up with more than one solution.

You don't know what will actually work before you try it. What
may seem like a good solution in theory doesn't always work in
reality. So brain-storm and come up with at least a few solutions. If
the first didn't work, try the next one.

8. Redefine failure.

This is important both to handle fear of failure for the whole
problem and to get you start trying different solutions without too
much hesitation. The definition of failure we are brought up with in
society might not be the best and most useful to have. If you look at
the most successful people you quickly notice that they have a
different response to failure than the more common one. They don't
take failure or rejection that seriously. They know it's not the end
of the world if they fail. Instead they look at each failure and see
the good part about: what they can learn from it and improve next
time. They have an abundance-mentality. They know that if their first
business-venture fails it feels like crap for a while but it's ok in
the long run. They learn from it and then they try again. Redefine
failure as feedback and as a natural part of a successful life.

9. Break down the problem into smaller pieces.

Completing a task or solving a problem can seem overwhelming and
impossible if you take it all in at once. To decrease anxiety and
think more clearly try to break the problem down. Try to identify the
different things and people it consists of. Then figure out one
practical solution you can take for each of those pieces. Try those
solutions. They may not solve the whole problem immediately. But they
might solve a few pieces of it. And then you can keep trying other
solutions for the rest of the pieces until there are none left.

10. Use the 80/20 rule.

Use 80 percent of your time to find solutions and only 20
percent to complain, worry and whine. It might not always be easy but
focusing your energy, time and thoughts in this way is much more
beneficial to you and others than doing the opposite.

11. Use Parkinson's Law.

This law says that a task will expand in time and seeming
complexity depending on the time you set aside for it. For instance,
if you say to yourself that you'll come up with a solution within a
week then the problem will seem to grow more difficult and you'll
spend more and more time trying to come up with a solution. Combine
this law with the 80/20 rule to find solutions quickly. Focus your
time on finding solutions. Then just give yourself an hour (instead of
the whole day) or the day (instead of the whole week) to solve the
problem. This will force your mind to focus on solutions and action.

12. Find the lesson or opportunity within the problem.

There is almost always a good side of a problem. Perhaps it
alerts us to a great way to improve our business. Or teaches us how
our lives perhaps aren't as bad as we thought. Finding this more
positive part of the problem reduces its negative emotional impact and
you may even start to see the situation as a great opportunity for
you. When you are faced with a problem ask yourself: How can I use
this? What is the good thing about this? What can I learn from this?
What hidden opportunity can I find within this problem?

13. Actually talk about the problem and communicate
clearly.

Many problems arise because someone misinterpreted what someone
else said. One way to make sure that you and everyone else have the
same interpretation of for instance a project is to have people repeat
back their view of the project and their part in it. See if your and
their view matches. If a conflict arises then maybe you need to just
talk it out, let go of a bit of steam, emotion and tension instead of
everyone bottling it up. After that the discussion may be less
emotionally charged. And it becomes easier to communicate clearly and
reach a good solution for everyone involved.

14. Create fewer problems.

A lot of our problems are created by ourselves. You save
yourself a lot of trouble by being proactive, thinking before you
speak and trying to avoid creating or complicating problems more than
necessary. One way to decrease problems is to follow - as much as you
can - Dale Carnegie's wise words: "Never critize, complain or
condemn". Many problems are somehow connected to relationships with
other people so a good way to create less problems is to improve your
social skills.

15. Use the power of words to your advantage.

Our minds respond more than one may think to what words that are
used to describe something. A problem is a negatively charged word. To
make it easier to handle the problem use the more neutral or positive
word challenge instead. This may sound like some empty and in reality
just useless advice. But, at least to me, I have found that doing this
small change has some impact on how negatively/positively I view a
situation.

16. Keep your motivation up.

It's easy to be discouraged, especially if you fear failure and
your first and second solution to a problem didn't work. You might
feel like just giving up. Then it's time to give yourself a boost of
motivation. Changing your mental state to a brighter, more positive
and more motivated one can make all the difference in the world. It
will keep you going. Even though you might just a few minutes earlier
felt like all hope was gone.